As
the first institutions established in the Word of God, marriage and family
provide the foundation for the very fabric of our society. After sharing the
Gospel of Christ, there is no greater gift parents can give their children
than a Godly marriage. Strong marriages and families lead to children having
greater success in their character and legacy... and ultimately their lives.
Over
the last few years of this initiative, the Committee Of Friends Forum is into
presenting seminars for single covering aspects of The 6 Secrets to Lasting Love. These seminars have had
tremendous impact and have served as a catalyst to a movement where marriage
is promoted, motivated, honored and cultivated in homes and in the church.
Our
focus on the effect of Family life in our society has worked with the COFFS
in creating a semi-Church Kit as a resource to help churches create a culture
of Godly Marriage in the Church and the society in general.
Another
way to keep the momentum and multiply the message is through training up
marriage champions or mentors. This year we will be holding these trainings
and equipping all those who have a heart to come alongside other married
couples and be involved in mentoring them. To so that other unmarried men
& women in reach get their own life partner to celebrate their happiness with
and sad time as well what matters to us is to give them an help met in life
as God planned it from when the world benign.
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“Marriage Counseling Forum (MCF) is an incredible Non profit organization (NGO) that based on addressing the needs of personal counseling to the Married men and women as well as the unmarried we provide them with free service of extremely valuable experience Counseling and expert guidance in a supportive confidential manner, we help people go through issues and also help them become better and more confident in them selves.
Wednesday, 16 May 2012
ABOUT THE GREAT MARRIAGE AS IT BEEN INSTITUTED BY GOD
Tuesday, 15 May 2012
A Divine Marriage
The Divine Marriage on the inner plane is what we are looking for. It is the marriage of our masculine and feminine energies that create balance within ourselves. We feel a sense of deep peace when we feel this alignment with our soul. Everything becomes easy and filled with grace as we realize our oneness with all that is. We are in the flow and recognize the synchronicity of every moment. We feel at ease as we deepen our connection with Source, giving us the freedom to know that everything is happening exactly as it needs to. When we live from this place, we will bring this into our external marriage. Having broken the inner walls of illusion, we will have the space to manifest this Divine Union.
Most of us dream about the perfect partner to share our life with. We search for our soul mate someone to adore us, someone who makes us laugh, and someone to understand us. What we do not realize is that this life-long search is actually a quest to feel whole within ourselves. We search outside of ourselves looking for those disowned parts of ourselves. When we feel whole and complete within ourselves, we have attained the Divine Marriage.
Yes, soul mates do exist, and we can have the perfect mate. However, it is much easier to look within ourselves and resolve the unloved places. When we have made peace within, we will feel whole. From this place, we can attract our equal. Some people are fortunate and will meet their soul mate before feeling complete within him/herself. Most of us will need to love the aspects of our inner male and female, creating the space for the inner marriage to thrive. Until we are able to embrace the divine masculine and feminine within us, we will always be searching outside of ourselves for the perfect mate. When our partner does something that irritates us, what are we being shown? What needs to happen inside? How do we make a change, so that our partner's thoughts, words, or actions, no longer bother us? Is it ever about them, or is it our reaction to their ways that need to be changed? What are we looking for when we make the vow to marry? What does it mean to have a lifetime partner? Are we looking for some external source of security? Do we want our partner to make us feel better? Do we truly want an equal in our lives? So often we want to meet our soul mate to share the rest of our lives. But does this really work?
When we bring an equal into our lives, we have to be willing to be strong enough in ourselves to want stop playing all the games. We need to be able to share in each others life work and dreams. Are we able to see the divine in each other always and stop the pettiness of “he said, she said" or whatever the pattern may be? We need to take a deeper look at the reasons we marry. Most marriages are commenced from a place of boundedness. Oftentimes we misinterpret a “connection" with someone and believe that this person is our soul mate, when in reality, we shared a strong connection at the time that we came together because we matched each other energetically in our soul's evolution. This does not mean that we will always have the same resonance with each other. A vow of marriage should not be a death sentence to the soul. It ought to be a liberation. We have been accustomed to believe that we must uphold our vow of marriage beyond all else. It seems quite ridiculous if what we yearn for is happiness and we are unable to come to terms with our partner's patterns and ways of being. Is it really better for us to stay together for the sake of the children or because we made a vow of marriage than to be happy? Think about what we are creating with this belief system. We need to put "the martyr" to rest and allow ourselves to be happy.
There is nothing wrong with separating when two people have grown apart and need to take different journeys. Follow the way of the heart and all will benefit in the long run. Sometimes we feel a strong connection with someone that could possibly be this person mirroring back our own soul. Maybe this person knows how to match us energetically and he/she can show us our true selves. Most of us have learned how to be a chameleon by adapting to the environment around us. When we meet someone who is great at this, we feel as if we have a strong connection. Our partner may be able to read our mind very early on in the relationship. This can give us the illusion that we have a strong connection, when in truth it is simply his/her ability to pick up on what we want to hear.
If one person wants to grow and change and another does not, it can become a challenge to a relationship. Occasionally it can work for people to stay together with this connection. One person wants to grow and change and the other is quite happy being the way he/she is. The non-changing partner is supportive of the other one's growth and does not stand in the way. This can work if the non-changing person is really okay with this. It can be difficult to see a woman go out into the world and succeed in a big way, and then come home to share stories of success, when the other partner is sitting home watching the TV. He oftentimes feels threatened by her success. If he is not strong in himself, he may fear her leaving him.
We need to be in resonance with ourselves first and then bring this into our marriage. From this place, we become the living example for those around us. The more people who are able to create this Divine Marriage, the more peace we will have on the planet. From this place, we have infinite possibilities available to us. If you have not quite reached this Divine Marriage and have taken the vow of marriage, understand that what you are looking for is to feel whole within yourself.
Allow your marriage to support you. Listen attentively to your partner without judgment and see what this person is showing you. Whether it is a good time or challenging one, you can listen to your partner to find deeper pieces for your own evolution. Put down your sword and choose your battles. Ask yourself if what you are upset about is really worth a discussion or is it some old wound within yourself that you need to heal. If you have a special relationship or soul mate connection, nurture it and be at peace. If you are still working on attaining this connection and feel your relationship warrants your effort, then proceed forward with love and willingness to change. It will take both parties having a desire and commitment to keep this relationship alive and unfolding.
Most of us dream about the perfect partner to share our life with. We search for our soul mate someone to adore us, someone who makes us laugh, and someone to understand us. What we do not realize is that this life-long search is actually a quest to feel whole within ourselves. We search outside of ourselves looking for those disowned parts of ourselves. When we feel whole and complete within ourselves, we have attained the Divine Marriage.
Yes, soul mates do exist, and we can have the perfect mate. However, it is much easier to look within ourselves and resolve the unloved places. When we have made peace within, we will feel whole. From this place, we can attract our equal. Some people are fortunate and will meet their soul mate before feeling complete within him/herself. Most of us will need to love the aspects of our inner male and female, creating the space for the inner marriage to thrive. Until we are able to embrace the divine masculine and feminine within us, we will always be searching outside of ourselves for the perfect mate. When our partner does something that irritates us, what are we being shown? What needs to happen inside? How do we make a change, so that our partner's thoughts, words, or actions, no longer bother us? Is it ever about them, or is it our reaction to their ways that need to be changed? What are we looking for when we make the vow to marry? What does it mean to have a lifetime partner? Are we looking for some external source of security? Do we want our partner to make us feel better? Do we truly want an equal in our lives? So often we want to meet our soul mate to share the rest of our lives. But does this really work?
When we bring an equal into our lives, we have to be willing to be strong enough in ourselves to want stop playing all the games. We need to be able to share in each others life work and dreams. Are we able to see the divine in each other always and stop the pettiness of “he said, she said" or whatever the pattern may be? We need to take a deeper look at the reasons we marry. Most marriages are commenced from a place of boundedness. Oftentimes we misinterpret a “connection" with someone and believe that this person is our soul mate, when in reality, we shared a strong connection at the time that we came together because we matched each other energetically in our soul's evolution. This does not mean that we will always have the same resonance with each other. A vow of marriage should not be a death sentence to the soul. It ought to be a liberation. We have been accustomed to believe that we must uphold our vow of marriage beyond all else. It seems quite ridiculous if what we yearn for is happiness and we are unable to come to terms with our partner's patterns and ways of being. Is it really better for us to stay together for the sake of the children or because we made a vow of marriage than to be happy? Think about what we are creating with this belief system. We need to put "the martyr" to rest and allow ourselves to be happy.
There is nothing wrong with separating when two people have grown apart and need to take different journeys. Follow the way of the heart and all will benefit in the long run. Sometimes we feel a strong connection with someone that could possibly be this person mirroring back our own soul. Maybe this person knows how to match us energetically and he/she can show us our true selves. Most of us have learned how to be a chameleon by adapting to the environment around us. When we meet someone who is great at this, we feel as if we have a strong connection. Our partner may be able to read our mind very early on in the relationship. This can give us the illusion that we have a strong connection, when in truth it is simply his/her ability to pick up on what we want to hear.
If one person wants to grow and change and another does not, it can become a challenge to a relationship. Occasionally it can work for people to stay together with this connection. One person wants to grow and change and the other is quite happy being the way he/she is. The non-changing partner is supportive of the other one's growth and does not stand in the way. This can work if the non-changing person is really okay with this. It can be difficult to see a woman go out into the world and succeed in a big way, and then come home to share stories of success, when the other partner is sitting home watching the TV. He oftentimes feels threatened by her success. If he is not strong in himself, he may fear her leaving him.
We need to be in resonance with ourselves first and then bring this into our marriage. From this place, we become the living example for those around us. The more people who are able to create this Divine Marriage, the more peace we will have on the planet. From this place, we have infinite possibilities available to us. If you have not quite reached this Divine Marriage and have taken the vow of marriage, understand that what you are looking for is to feel whole within yourself.
Allow your marriage to support you. Listen attentively to your partner without judgment and see what this person is showing you. Whether it is a good time or challenging one, you can listen to your partner to find deeper pieces for your own evolution. Put down your sword and choose your battles. Ask yourself if what you are upset about is really worth a discussion or is it some old wound within yourself that you need to heal. If you have a special relationship or soul mate connection, nurture it and be at peace. If you are still working on attaining this connection and feel your relationship warrants your effort, then proceed forward with love and willingness to change. It will take both parties having a desire and commitment to keep this relationship alive and unfolding.
Why you should cherish and appreciate your marriage until the end of time.
As I was trotting along, looking down and straight ahead at the path in front of me, a miracle happened to me. At the precise up swing of my arm and hand, a leaf, falling from a tree fell directly into my hand. I didn’t even see the leaf, until after I felt it land in my hand, mid running stride and all. At first, I thought, “Wow, that was crazy,” which turned into “Oh my goodness, I can’t believe that just happened! What a miracle.”
I mean seriously, what are the chances that a leaf would fall from a tree, glide through the wind at the perfect trajectory and land in my hand, mid running stride without me even trying to catch it. In addition, I thought about all of the starts and stops I had made (that I don’t normally do) and the different, completely unplanned route I had taken and how this wouldn’t have happened if my hand hadn’t been in that exact spot at that precise moment.
Every single thing had to occur in absolute perfect succession for this moment to have happened.
This got me thinking about marriage and the divine perfection it is when two people meet, fall in love and get married or choose life long partnership. There is a perfect synchronicity of events that has brought two people together to a time and place in each other’s lives where they choose to become life long partners.
This can’t be an accident, right or what do you think?
The “starts and stops” include former relationships and heartbreaks, job relocations, seemingly random choices about lunch, or following an urge to meet a group of friends for happy hour or finally succumbing to the matchmaking of someone in your office. It’s an entire life of events that lead you to the moment you meet the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with.
Think about the seemingly random sequence of events that led you to your spouse or life partner. It’s not random.
I believe that people come together for a reason. I believe the reason is to heal our deepest pain and learn to truly love another, so that we might experience true love for ourselves. Think about it! Take a look at your own relationship. What is it that your spouse or partner intuitively supports you in healing that no one has ever made a difference with? 'Eat, Pray, Love' Author Takes On Marriage
What gift does your spouse or partner give you that nobody else ever can? What part of you have they unlocked that no other person has? What is your partner uniquely suited to provide for you that no other human being on the planet can provide?When we forget the divine purpose for our life long relationships, we lose our motivation. We suddenly forget the specialness and the holiness of our relationship.
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With sincere heart of love, my profound gratitude goes to all my fans who took out their precious time to visit our Blog; I say may the good Lord continue to bless you guys.
As we continue to champion this course, my prayer is that, the good Lord will help us to achieve our aims, objectives and above all the motive of which this organization is being established.
As we continue to champion this course, my prayer is that, the good Lord will help us to achieve our aims, objectives and above all the motive of which this organization is being established.
Committee of Friends Forum is a social network that brings all the singles in our society to discuss the challenges of unmarried men and women today because is like the thing is increasing day after day on that note this forum was organize in order to arrest the situation on time,and our research has shown that about 45 Millions Nigerian Men Are Not Married these data was released in October 20, 2009 By Paul Dada A total of 45,437,673 Nigerians have never been married in their lives. So we want to see how we can touch the life of other people within us, look at South Korea for an example where they have to organize mass wedding for about forty thousand couples (40,000) couples in a day, All because of financial and unmarried challenges and some with different type of needs as the case maybe.
The question we should be asking our self is: why is it that among the entire pastor and all the religious leaders, have not organized any of such mass weddings in Nigeria? Or perhaps the God that ministers to religious leaders in other countries does not minister to our religious leaders? Or maybe we are just mere spiritual in Nigeria. But I live that one day things will change for good with the vision of committee of friends forum we will correct this past mistake that has been happening.
We are here to provide our people the platform of coming together to know each other and prepare them for a glorious future ahead of them since our ministry leader fails to pick up this responsibilities of helping the unmarried in our society to get marriage in their life time, But some of them are concerned with just their congregation alone. Ours is to bring all religions and kingdoms to the knowledge of early marriage in life helps one to fulfill is calling in life.
We are here to provide our people the platform of coming together to know each other and prepare them for a glorious future ahead of them since our ministry leader fails to pick up this responsibilities of helping the unmarried in our society to get marriage in their life time, But some of them are concerned with just their congregation alone. Ours is to bring all religions and kingdoms to the knowledge of early marriage in life helps one to fulfill is calling in life.
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